4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails. … 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV
You probably have heard this verse. It is used quite a bit during weddings. I think it’s important to look at it carefully. Are our actions and words good definitions of love?
I invite you to ask the following questions of three different people. Choose people that know you at your best and at your worst: a spouse, your children, your parents, close friends, etc.
- When was the last time I was inpatient? Unkind?
- Was there a time I was envious? Boastful or proud?
- Have I done something that you thought dishonored someone else? Or was selfish?
- How is my temper? Do you think I hold grudges?
- Have I ever disappointed you or failed you in a particular way?
You might get answer you might not like; however, make sure you listen, don’t argue or make excuses (even if you think you are right and they are wrong).
After you are done, spend some time with God, speak with him and figure out if your words and actions are the definition of love.